Happy Outdoors

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Like many people who live in the northern countries of the world, I feel the mood dampening effects of winter’s reduced daylight. I have become quite familiar with winter seasonal affective disorder or SAD, the so-convenient-it’s-annoying acronym, in my adult life.

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After several winters spent indoors wishing it were warmer and letting the darker days get me down, I think I’ve finally found a way to avoid – or at least delay – the onset of SAD:  as soon as the weather turns cold, I try go outdoors and appreciate the weather and changing seasons as often as I can. It makes sense that this works for me. When I was a kid, I had no ill feelings for winter. I loved playing outside with my dad, brother and dog on snowy Saturdays. Some of my fondest memories are tobogganing down a little artificial hill my dad would build off the edge of the deck – optimizing a small and very shallow slope to the side of the stairs – using the snow he shovelled off the deck. My brother and I would slide down, trying to get as far into the backyard as possible, make our way back up to the deck as our border collie, Bear, attempted to steal our mittens to bury them for reasons only he understood, repeat for hours and then go in and put our wet clothes on the register to dry while our mom made hot chocolate and insisted we were on the brink of frostbite. These days, my outdoor winter activities tend to include more shovelling and walking than tobogganing and dog wrestling, but the mood boosting effects are still the same. I still finish with hot chocolate.

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Cardigan H&M
Skirt thrifted
Knee Socks Mcgregor Socks
Hat ModCloth
Scarf ModCloth
Necklace ModCloth
Ring family heirloom

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All photos by me.

Working from Home

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Leslie Knope is my work ethic role model. I wish I could forgo a real-person amount of sleep to get as much done as she does. Unfortunately, I cannot live in a fictional world where it’s possible for one person to do the work of four or five. I can’t stay up all night making cookies and quilts and still get all my work done the next day. I need to maintain a work day schedule with enough time to recharge with food, sleep, friends, family and passive TV binging every now and then to avoid small business owner burnout.

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A band-aid on the finger is the international symbol for “I work with my hands”.

I’ve been working from home as a full time self-employed person for about a year now and I think I’ve finally developed a schedule that works for me. Everyone always says they would love to have a job that allows them to work from home. Those who live the dream know that it’s not as carefree and casual as everyone thinks. Everyone struggles with something at the beginning, it could be retaining a diurnal lifestyle now that you can work anytime of the day (or night) you like, combating cabin fever, maintaining work/life balance or any number of weird problems you’d never see coming. For me, the biggest struggle has always been keeping my work and home life separate. Here’s the best schedule I’ve been able to come up with:

I wake up around sunrise; I have since I was a kid, I don’t know why and I don’t know how to stop. I usually read in bed until a reasonable hour.
8 am – 9 am I make breakfast and make a to-do list, check my stats, maintain my Etsy listings, print out and process any orders that came in overnight and form a social media marketing plan (if applicable) while I eat.
9 am – 10 am I get dressed, tidy up the apartment and make myself a cup of tea.
10 am – 1 pm I dedicate time to working on new samples, which can include design time, sourcing materials, sewing, photographing or listing new items in the shop, and working on wholesale/ consignment orders.
1 pm – 2 pm I try to take a break to eat lunch. This time of year, I have a lot of working lunches.
2 pm – 4 pm I work on orders I take in through the Etsy shop. If I don’t have any open orders to work on, I focus on the blog.
4 pm – 5 pm I pack orders, print and process new orders, return emails and order supplies.
5 pm I try really hard to stop working but usually have to run to the post office, drop off some consignment items, answer trickier questions from customers, take some pictures for the blog, do research, etc.

Even the best schedule can be really hard to stick to when your office or studio is only a few steps away from your living space. For example, last Sunday night I found myself in my office, in the dark, answering emails at 10 pm, saying out loud, “this is why I have scheduled email time” and telling my husband I was almost done several times before I actually was. Every weekend I tell myself I will rest and recharge for the coming week before working on orders and blog stuff all day Saturday and running work errands half the day Sunday. But sometimes that’s what it takes to run a business.

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The best trick I’ve found to avoid burnout is literally tricking myself. If I can find a way to do things in a way that makes me happy, like working in my pajamas for an hour every morning or making myself a fancy and exciting tea before sitting down at my sewing machine everyday, I’m less resentful towards my intense, high expectations boss (i.e., me), less anxious, more creative and more likely to stick to the schedule.

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Dress Sophster-Toaster
Tights Shopper’s Drug Mart
Slippers White Noise Maker (similar)
Barrette very old

Finding balance is hard, but once you do, you’ll amaze yourself with how much energy and productivity you can find in one little person.

All photos by me.

Indian Summer*

I remember the first time I heard the term Indian summer. My mom used it to describe the dry, unseasonably warm weather we were experiencing while talking to my dad as we drove past a field of tall stalks of dry, pale yellow corn. I don’t remember what they were talking about, I don’t think I was even listening, but that phrase struck me with such significant beauty that I will never be able to forget the first time I heard it.

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When the weather turned warm with bright blue skies this week, after weeks of dreary cold, I though, oh yay, Indian summer. Then I had to wonder if the term I’ve been using for my favourite time of the year was non-PC, racist and harmful. In an age when people love being offended, especially on behalf of others, it can be hard for someone who doesn’t typically face barriers of discrimination to know which words are actually destructive.

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There are three main theories about the origin and etymology of Indian summer presented on Wikipedia:

  1. The time of dry heat – a type a weather very rarely seen in southern Ontario – following a cold and rainy period occurring in mid to late fall was first described to European settlers and explorers by Native American peoples.
  2. This type of weather frequently occurred during the Native American peoples’ traditional hunting season.
  3. It comes from some boaty-talk jargon involving the Indian Ocean.

There’s a quote I always think of, I can’t remember who said it because I can’t remember where I heard it, that goes something like, “A person who is always politically correct is a person who never says anything at all.” And while I firmly believe that political correctness has gone too far, I also believe that I’m not in any position to decide how someone else should feel about any word. Plus, theory #3 seems a little too convenient for the people who have never been hurt by words to actually be true.

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*So, with all that being said, please, let me know, at a time when many First Nations communities in Canada are struggling to secure their most basic human rights, is it alright to say Indian summer?

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Top H&M
Skirt Sophster-Toaster
Stockings ModCloth (old)
Shoes ModCloth (old)
Necklace ModCloth (old)
Ring Blue Ridge Notions

All outfit photos by Matt Harrison, all flora photos by me.

Dressing up for Halloween

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I like dressing up on Halloween but I don’t like wearing a costume. I think it’s so much more fun to go as your real self. It’s the one day when you can experiment with all the weird things you like but aren’t brave enough to wear on a normal day. Things like bright red tights, matching lipstick, cut crease eye shadow even though you have hooded eyelids so it always looks weird, white nail polish and a party dress.

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I own these things because I like them. I don’t hide them in the back of the closet all year just counting down the days, but today is the only day I can wear them all together and not worry about the stares and smiles I’ll get.

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And you know what, every year, after every experiment, I get braver. I prove to myself that I can wear something bold, something I was unsure about, and not be bothered by the girl in sweatpants and moccasins, with the birds tattooed behind her ear, looking me up and down while I wait in line at the grocery store. Every year, I find the point where the real me stands and I get to see how much farther I need to push the boundary line before I can reach her.

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Dress ModCloth (old)
Tights Target
Shoes ModCloth
Earrings Claire’s (old)
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Lipstick Rimmel Moisture Renew in Red Alert
Nail Polish Revlon Top Speed in Spirit

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Maybe I’m not overdressed, maybe the world is simply underdressed. What’s wrong with looking like you are always on your way to a party?

All Pictures by me and Matt Harrison.